TURN PERPETRATORS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE INTO GENDER ACTIVISTS
Ninety percent of domestic violence that is suffered by women is hidden in the emotional, psychological, sexual and social spheres.By far the legal systems mainly address the physical sphere.Our innovation redirects attention to the devastating and often prolonged forms of hidden domestic violence. My idea places men at the forefront of protecting women against domestic violence.Men are the majority of perpetrators of sexual, physical, emotional and psychological abuse of women.We believe that this violence is more effectively dealt with by removing it in men rather than merely shielding women from an evil that continues to exist and grow in the male population. Striving for Gender equity should no longer be considered a solely womens' thing,a perception that is in itself abusive too.
Our innovation is in the method of handling abuse at its roots.It stems from our research findings that abusive men had suffered or been exposed to violence in their childhood;that violence as a means of conflict resolution was a learned behavior;We agreed with most schools of psychology that dominant adult behavioral patterns were formed and established in the earliest years of childhood.
It is well known, for instance, that men who were sexually abused in their childhood turned out to be sexually abusive in their adult life; an unconscious reliving of childhood impressions that they had been exposed to.The surest way to end sexual abuse and violence is to remove it in those who already have it and to prevent the next generation from any exposure to it.
This innovative principle, little noticed in the world, applies to all forms of violence, right from open terrorism all the way down to the hidden forms of domestic violence in the privacy of one's bedroom. Domestic violence can be compared to a statement that can be completely deleted only when its subject, object and verb is deleted.
Our work therefore focuses on protecting children from exposure to domestic and public violence by lobbying law makers to criminalise all exposure of children to violence, even in homes; to sue parents that fought in the presence of children as well as persons who used the cane on school children and youth. Many countries still uphold the use of the cane on schoolchildren.
We set up an office where conflict could be resolved by non-violent, non-confrontational means;where spiritual, social, psychological methods are used in counselling sessions; where people experiencing violence of all kinds, especially domestic violence could find approopriate help.
We wanted gender violence to be included as a compulsory subject in schools and institutions of learning.
We wanted more attention to be paid to appropriate forms of behavioral change.Alcoholics, drug addicts, wife batterers needed more than imprisonment for their behavior to change permanently.
Society needed to rethink the current trends of conflict resolution that continue to expose the next generation to an endless cycle of violence. This included war,capital punishment,public corporal punishment, wife battering,mob justice, gang rape,torture in prisons and public assualt of people by law enforcement personal and police brutality.
Physical forms of domestic violence are the final expression of years of less visible psychological, emotional and sexual abuse. We use psycho-social and spiritual counselling methods to address hidden but devastating forms of abuse.
Arguing from the fact that the boy child adopts his father as a role model it makes sense that men will continue to be the main perpetrators of domestic violence. This is proof for the psychological claim that dominant adult behavior is established in childhood.Here is an innovative way to get parents concerned about who their child's role model might be.Domestic violence can only be completely eradicated when children have no violent role models to adopt; when potentially violent behavior is addressed in men, women, youth and children...a new way to get the whole population involved in the fight to end domestic violence.